People say sex is good for the heart, great for the mood and also works wonders on the skin. If you're one of those that believe in that "school of thought", I hope you also know that not all types of sex offer same benefit?
There are instances that sex can worsen an "already bad" situation. It can even go worst that you might find yourself wishing you hadn't wasted you "clean" underwear and your precious time and energy on a brief fling with sexual mediocrity.
So what type(s) of sex should you avoid? I have them highlighted below. Don't flip through... read through:
1. Drunk Sex
If you are the type that requires a few drinks to loosen you up and help you shed your inhibitions be mindful of the amount of drinks you take. Limit the number of glass you down so you won't end up shedding and downing more than you should.
Before you decide to take all you can in a bar, you should also decide whether you're open to letting it take on a whole new meaning bedside. If you plan on drinking, bear in mind that alcohol impairs your judgment.
Being drunk invariably reduce the likelihood of using condoms and other safer sex tools. Be smart - plan ahead. Alcohol may seemingly improve your performance in the "other room", but it can also have the opposite effect sexually as it impacts your body's sexual response and circulation making erections and lubrication harder to come by. So if you're not ready to live with its consequence(s), don't have sex when you are drunk. If you must, act smart by planning ahead.
2. Make-Up Sex
People usually come up with varying opinions on this but you are in the best position to decide if it works for you or not.
Some psychologists believe that it rewards fighting, drama and generally bad behavior. They suggest that couples are dealing with intensely negative emotions and instead of finding a resolution; they seek an opposite experience (pleasure) in sex. They argue that this type of sex isn't "real intimacy" and that it can lead to loneliness and the belief that everything can be fixed with sex. What a world it would be if this were true!
3. Break-Up Sex
While it may seem appealing to take one last ride on that pony for old time's sake, but you should also consider restraints as the consequences usually outweigh the benefits.
That you're breaking up means something isn't working. And even if sex isn't the cause of your break-up, it can complicate an already delicate situation. For instance, it's easy for your partner to misconstrue your intentions. When it comes to break-up sex, you don't want your "It has been a pleasure doing business with you," to be misinterpreted for a "Thank you. Come again!"
Even if you're the type who makes your intentions crystal clear, science still offers warnings against break-up sex. Romantic rejection and heartbreak trigger the same parts of the brain associated with pain, distress and addiction. It takes time to reduce these triggers and when the wound is fresh, you don't want to train your body to link sex with these conditions.
4. Self-Pity Sex (The One Night Stand)
In case you're having a little pity party for yourself and think that a one-night stand will elevate your spirits, you may want to think again - especially if you're a woman. While a one-time roll in the hay (or nightclub restroom stall) can be fun for some, women seem to get the short end of the stick when it comes to casual sex. And the short sticks aren't to blame.
Some researchers have proven that over half (54%) of women often feel disappointed by one-night stands and report high levels of regret the morning after. On the other hand, 80% of men feel positively about the experience and say that it helps them to blow off some steam. Wow!
Steam? Is that what they're calling it these days? So before you take the plunge and turn to casual sex to lift your spirits, please be sure to consider other ways to crash the pity party. There would definitely be other ways to lift your spirits other than one night stand.
If you find yourself enticed by these four types of sex, you may want to take a moment to reconsider. And if you're still tempted, at least consider the laundry!
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